A LETTER FROM A NEW MUM
In this latest blog post, co-founder and new Mum Evelyn, shares her insights into the first few weeks of motherhood. This letter is full of learnings and insights for mums-to-be and new mums, based on Evelyn’s own experience.
The Fourth Trimester
So here I am in the fourth trimester (yes that’s right there are four), and it’s safe to say this one is certainly the hardest (but equally full of magic too). I don’t know about you, but although I couldn’t see my baby during the first three trimesters, I felt that I could keep them relatively safe inside me, it was the bit afterwards (the very much unknown) which terrified me. I had never changed a nappy and had very limited experience of looking after a baby - ultimately despite reading numerous books, I didn’t really know what lay ahead post birth. However, it’s amazing how much you learn by doing in those first few days and weeks. You’ll soon find what works for you and your baby.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve kept track of my learnings/thoughts/advice in the notes section on my phone - and I’ve finally found a window where I have two hands free (albeit with a baby laying on my chest) in order to put together a somewhat coherent blog post (I will let you be the judge!). I hope this post provides a little insight into the fourth trimester for those of you imminently expecting or reassures those of you fresh into motherhood that you are not alone.
Words of advice/wisdom/learnings:
The first few nappy changes will be daunting and super slow (cautiously lifting limb by limb), but you’ll soon be operating a slick Formula 1 Pit Stop. Set-up your station and have your wet wipes at the ready.
You may have brought some super cute baby outfits pre-birth, but no matter how cute, you’ll find yourself opting for those that provide the quickest access to the nappy (believe me, poppers and zips are the way forward).
A lack of sleep, especially in the early days, can make you do slightly odd things…(including attempting to burp your pregnancy pillow as you think its the baby!) Know that you are not the only one.
Your baby might be a few days/weeks old but remember no one knows them like you do. You’ll hear conflicting advice which can lead to confusion, step back and always trust your instincts.
Do what you need to do to get through the night - if that means eating a slice of banana bread at three in the morning that is okay…(speaking from experience on multiple occasions)
Don’t be proud, if you need help do not be afraid to reach out and ask for it.
People will tell you to rest when the baby does, when the baby is sleeping on you this can be somewhat problematic…therefore take the opportunity to rest when friends and family members are enjoying cuddles.
Having a tough night? Remember the sun always comes up, and everything is better in the day light.
Just because they didn’t sleep last night, doesn’t mean that tonight will be the same. Begin the day with fresh (as you can) optimism.
Find your tribe. Connect with other mums at a similar stage as you, if you’re worried about something, it’s likely that another mum is too. Lean on this support and learn from one another.
Newborn cuddles truly are the best, your own personal hot water bottle that smells so great.
Remember your body has grown and birthed this beautiful tiny person. It’s unlikely to look the same as it did pre-pregnancy, be kind to it and yourself.
Stay hydrated and do what you can to nourish your body. Say yes to offers of home cooked meals from friends, eat fruit and vegetables where you can, and don’t feel guilty for enjoying that slice of cake.
You may make plans but it’s unlikely that you will always be on time (as someone that was previously always early, this has been a difficult one for me to accept). People will understand.
If you’ve choosen to breastfeed and are finding it hard, you are not alone. Ask for help and make the most of the resources that are available to you. It might be a simple technique change that makes a world of difference. Equally, remember that breastfeeding is not the only option.
Are you a new mum or mum-to-be? As a Balance + Glo member you will have access to ‘Bump + Beyond’ our dedicated pre-and post-natal programme. This includes pre- and post-natal yoga and fitness, as well nutritional guidance, self care activities and meditations.
Feeling a little overwhelmed?
I recommend taking 10 minutes in the day to listen to our 10 minute Peace and Calm Meditation. You don’t need to be sat on your mat to reap the benefits, you could simply pop your headphones in whilst feeding or cuddling your baby.
Evelyn will be sharing further insights as she navigates the early stages of motherhood and, as well as documenting her postnatal recovery, leading to additional resources being made available on the platform.
